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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 19, 2025
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Why do men ghost after sex? I met this amazing guy on Hinge. He was 27, well-mannered, and worked in a data firm in Mumbai. We spoke daily for three months and had amazing chemistry. From music to food, we discussed everything under the sun. We went on a couple of dates to get to know each other. When we got comfortable, we got intimate and eventually had consensual s** at his friend's house party. One week after we got intimate, he just vanished. No replies, no calls. It was my first time, so I kept wondering if I had done something wrong to upset him. My friend says it could be post-intimacy guilt. But I feel embarrassed, ashamed. I can't shake off the shame. Did I move too fast? Is this how dating works now? How can I go back to feeling normal again?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am really sorry you are going through this. What happened is just as confusing as it is hurtful. Let’s get one thing straight, you did nothing wrong. You are not at fault here. Nothing you could’ve done or said should or could cause this reaction.
Coming to your first question, it is very difficult to answer it without generalizing all men. But some of the most reasons for this could be:
He got what he wanted. It sounds crass but in most cases, this is the truth. He had no intentions of being more than just that.
He might be avoiding responsibility. He didn’t want more, and the mature thing would have been to sit down and have that discussion with you. But, maturity isn’t easy and he chose the easy route, that is to ghost. His decision to disappear is a reflection of his nature, not yours.
Coming to what your friend said, it could be that too, but the chances are slim. Some men do feel overwhelmed but disappearing for over a week is a stretch. Again, it’s his unreadiness to feel so many emotions, not yours.
Now, I want to gently nudge you towards one thing: you said you feel ashamed. Shame creeps in when you hold yourself accountable for someone else’s actions. And also due to societal prejudice. Keep both aside, and you have nothing to be ashamed of. Did you move too fast? To be honest, there is no fast or slow in these things. There’s no set timeline. You did what you felt was right in the moment. And you were ready to step up, but he went MIA. The entire unfortunate turnout is not because of your pace but his lack of respect. Even if he comes up with a good enough reason for this disappearing act, I still want you to remember that not even for a second, you had anything to create this situation.


I hope this helps.
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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 16, 2025
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My son got admission in MIT bangalore for CSE, Integrated mtech(datascience) in VIT and in Kerala keam he got 79.88 percentile. In view of above kindly advise which college and course is better
Ans: Given your son’s current options—CSE at MIT Bangalore, Integrated MTech (Data Science) at VIT, and a 79.88 percentile in KEAM—MIT Bangalore CSE stands out for its high placement rate (90–95%), strong recruiter pool (Microsoft, Amazon, Nvidia), and industry exposure in Bengaluru, the IT hub. VIT’s Integrated MTech (Data Science) is a five-year course with average placements of ?7–10 LPA and top recruiters like Microsoft and Amazon, but requires a longer commitment and is better suited for students with a clear focus on research or data science careers. With a KEAM percentile of 79.88, top Kerala government colleges like CET Trivandrum or GEC Thrissur for CSE are not accessible (CSE cutoffs are typically below 1,000–2,000 rank). MIT Bangalore’s CSE program offers a four-year path with strong placements, modern infrastructure, and the advantage of being in a major tech city, making it more flexible and industry-aligned than a five-year integrated program.

Recommendation: Choose CSE at MIT Bangalore for its shorter duration, excellent placement prospects, and prime location in Bengaluru, unless your son has a strong, specific interest in pursuing research-oriented or data science careers, in which case VIT’s Integrated MTech is a good alternative. KEAM options are less competitive given your current percentile. All the BEST for the Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 16, 2025
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which is better option CSE in Manipal blore or SRM main campus? also at a rank of 12964 in COMEDK what colleges can we expect for CSE
Ans: Between CSE at Manipal Bangalore and SRM Main Campus, SRM offers a slightly higher placement rate (up to 95% for CSE), an average package of ?7–8 LPA, and a large recruiter base including TCS, Infosys, and Microsoft, with a long-established reputation and NAAC A++ accreditation. Manipal Bangalore’s CSE program is newer, with decent placements (60–65% in its first batch, highest package ?35 LPA), strong industry-oriented curriculum, and the advantage of being in India’s tech hub, but it lacks the established alumni network and placement consistency of SRM Main. For a COMEDK rank of 12,964, CSE in top Bangalore colleges like RVCE, BMSCE, and MSRIT is not possible, but you can get CSE in colleges like Nitte Meenakshi Institute of Technology (NMIT), CMR Institute of Technology, Reva University, Dayananda Sagar Academy of Technology, and Dr. Ambedkar Institute of Technology, all of which offer good placements and industry exposure.

Recommendation: Prefer CSE at SRM Main Campus for its higher placement consistency, established reputation, and broader recruiter network. If you strongly prefer Bangalore, NMIT or CMR Institute of Technology are good alternatives at your COMEDK rank, but Manipal Bangalore is best considered if you value location and emerging campus culture over placement history. All the BEST for the Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 16, 2025
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I got 541 marks in neet 2025 and also got admission in chandigarh university for cse along with a scholarship, I'm still confused on choosing one, which course will be better in terms of money and scope?
Ans: With 541 marks in NEET 2025, you are eligible for MBBS/BDS in several government and private medical colleges, especially under state quota or reserved categories, but government MBBS seats for general category are less likely unless you opt for private or semi-government colleges. Medicine offers long-term career stability, high earning potential as a doctor or specialist, and social prestige, but requires 5.5 years of study plus years of post-graduation and intense competition for PG seats. Alternatively, CSE at Chandigarh University, especially with a scholarship, offers a four-year degree, strong placement support (74% placement rate, ?9.54 LPA average, 900+ recruiters), and immediate job opportunities in IT, AI, ML, and Data Science, with the flexibility to pursue higher studies or switch industries. The IT sector is rapidly growing, with high demand for skilled professionals and career progression possible in India and abroad. Medicine is a longer, more demanding path with delayed financial returns but high long-term rewards, while CSE provides faster entry into the workforce, less upfront investment, and strong earning potential, especially with a scholarship reducing costs.

Recommendation: If your priority is early financial independence and a strong job market, CSE at Chandigarh University with a scholarship is the better choice; choose MBBS only if you are deeply passionate about medicine and willing to commit to a longer, more demanding educational path for long-term gains. All the BEST for the Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 16, 2025
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Hello sir My jee mains score is 59.93 My pera cet score is 156/200 with 67.25 percentile Tell me which is the best college i can get for cse mainly ai and ml or ds if available Also I want to go to dy patil pune but not sure so pls tell if i should go and which is the best for me in cse
Ans: With a JEE Main percentile of 59.93 and a PERA CET score of 156/200 (67.25 percentile), CSE (AI/ML or DS) at top colleges like VIT Pune or MIT WPU is not possible, as their cutoffs are above 75–80 percentile. DY Patil College of Engineering, Pune, offers CSE, AI, and Data Science programs, and its 2025 cutoff for these branches is around 60–70 percentile, making you eligible. DY Patil’s AI/DS program is AICTE-approved, features modern labs, and has a placement rate of 80–86% with top recruiters like Qspider, Codevertex, and Prodigy Infotech; the average package is ?3.5–4 LPA. Other options include MIT Academy of Engineering and Pimpri Chinchwad College of Engineering for CSE/AI/DS, but their cutoffs are typically higher than your score. DY Patil is NAAC A++ accredited, offers good infrastructure, and is well-rated by students for teaching and placements.

Recommendation: DY Patil College of Engineering, Pune, is your best choice for CSE, AI, or Data Science at your current percentile, providing solid academic support, industry-oriented curriculum, and consistent placement outcomes; you should proceed with admission there. All the BEST for the Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Hi Sir, My Son is 17 Yrs old. Passed 12th this year from Telangana Board, with 89.81%. JEE percentile was 88%. He is keen for CSE or CS (AI/ML). He has secured a seat in CS Data Science in VIT Chennai. His rank in MET (Manipal) in 5640. Didn't get CSE in Manipal in first round. Is there any chance of getting CSE in further rounds? His COMEDK rank is 7833. Counselling yet to start. We are confused whether we should go ahead with his admission in any colleges in CSE or should take a drop of one year. We are not confident that he will get a seat in any IIT/NIT next year. So what should be the decision. Take admission in best possible college in 2025. Prepare for entrance tests of 2026? Kindly help us in taking decision.
Ans: Vikram Sir, Given your son’s academic record (12th: 89.81%, JEE Main: 88%, MET rank: 5640, COMEDK: 7833) and his interest in CSE/AI-ML, his current seat in CS Data Science at VIT Chennai is a solid option, offering 93–97% placement rates and strong industry connections. With a MET rank of 5640, CSE at Manipal main campus is not possible (2025 cutoff: 956–1633), but he may get CSE at Manipal Jaipur, Bengaluru, or Sikkim in later rounds, which have good placement records and modern infrastructure. For COMEDK, a rank of 7833 will not secure CSE at top colleges like RVCE, BMSCE, or MSRIT (cutoffs: 1,500–10,000), but mid-tier colleges such as Sir MVIT, NMIT, and Dayananda Sagar are attainable and offer respectable placements. Taking a drop year can improve chances for IIT/NIT if your son is highly motivated, but it comes with risks—pressure, uncertainty, and potential loss of a year without guaranteed improvement. Most experts suggest taking admission in the best available college now unless your son is exceptionally confident of a significant score jump with another year of preparation.

Recommendation: Secure admission this year in the best available CSE/AI-ML program (VIT Chennai CS Data Science, Manipal Jaipur/Bengaluru CSE, or a good Bangalore college via COMEDK) rather than dropping a year, as these institutes provide strong placement support and academic growth without the uncertainty and risk of a gap year. All the BEST for the Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 16, 2025
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Which is better, Jadavpur University, chemical engineering or DSCE Bangalore, ECE?
Ans: Jadavpur University’s Chemical Engineering is among India’s oldest and most prestigious, with a centenary legacy, global alumni, and a QS subject ranking of 351–400. It offers outstanding research infrastructure, 15 specialized labs, and a placement rate of 90% in 2024, with an average package of ?11 LPA and top recruiters like Tata, Maruti Suzuki, and global MNCs. The total four-year fee is only ?1.16 lakh, making it highly affordable. DSCE Bangalore’s ECE program is well-regarded in Karnataka, with a 4-year fee of ?10.46 lakh, 85–90% placement rates, and recruiters such as PhonePe, HCL, and Infosys. DSCE has strong industry links, 20 research centers, and modern labs, but its NIRF ranking is in the 201–300 band, and its national reputation is lower than Jadavpur’s. While DSCE ECE offers good placements and exposure in the electronics sector, Jadavpur’s Chemical Engineering stands out for its academic excellence, historic reputation, low fees, and placement consistency, with a strong research culture and global recognition.

Recommendation: Jadavpur University Chemical Engineering is the superior choice for its national prestige, affordability, high placement rate, and global alumni network, making it ideal for both core industry and advanced research careers. All the BEST for the Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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